There is always that one question you ask yourself when you start dating someone new. You really like this guy but don’t want sex to ruin the relationship and friendship you have with him. How long should you make him wait until you guys have sex? If you’re like me, the first thing you do is ask your friends… “Guuuurrrrlll, I made Devon wait 3 months.” “That’s too damn long. When I first seen Charles the only thing I can think about was when we were gonna have sex.” “Smh. That’s why you single now, cant keep ya legs closed.” Uhhhhhhhh yeah. They’re no help right? I know. Is two weeks to short? Is 3 months too long? In the back of your head, you think... Well if he likes me and I like him we should just do it. W R O N G ! The whole purpose of making him wait is so that he knows you’re not some hoe that’s just gonna give it up. Some of yall girls get a few good morning texts and are ready to have his babies. Then you wonder why you only hear from him when he randomly comments on one of your Instagram pictures. |
Anyway… while you are holding out on having sex with him, you will get to know him better, get more comfortable with each other, little things that will be the foundation of the future relationship without having to stress about sex. You don’t want a relationship that is solely based on sex, you want it to be based on the true feelings you have for one another. There is an actual plus to making him wait. The sex will be better. Yes, you read that right. You both have been waiting for this moment, so whether good or not so good, it will still be special. You have to trust your female intuition to see if this guy is really who he says he is or if he just wants to “hit it and quit it”. A real man will respect your decision and will wait as long as it takes. If you get a man like that… he’s a keeper. Like they say, “Good things come to those who wait.” Check out this cool website from another girl who tries to conquer this single world. thissinglelife.com -Liv |